Understand Value Systems to Improve Attitude

Value Systems Can Help Change Attitudes

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“Who did you climb with?” is way more important than “What did you climb?” and it’s always Wife’s first question to assess how my climbing session went. My value system is currently still all caught up in grade chasing but, if my community is nearby every day has joy.

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People-Based

One climbers value system is completely people based, if he met someone new, laughed with friends, or made someone feel loved, then his climbing session was a success. If he sends some hard boulders he is happy but if he falls all day long he is still happy, as long as he positively impacted the people around him. Failure to him would be if his friends and community weren’t made better by his presence.

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Performance-Based

We compare ourselves to others. Bouldering is a solo sport with a community focus. So we naturally compare ourselves to others progress. This is detrimental to mental health because there will always be others who are better. Performance-based value system means only valuing the output of the singular action. But that doesn't take into account the greater, personal impact an action has.

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Shift to People-Based for Greater Success in Bouldering

My old value system would inspire change through aggression, if you want to be different you have to aggressively attack the things you don’t like. My new value system is the complete opposite, if I want to encourage a loving and uplifting culture I need to become loving and uplifting and that starts with me. I need a support system, a community of unconditional love and, a self-esteem based not on comparison or success but those same core values of embracing and up lifting.

I don’t have it all figured out, but together we learn, grow, and heal. We build up the communities around us and they naturally increase. We reinforce the values we want to see in the world by repeating them in our own hearts and minds. Leave every interaction with a smile an encouraging word or just something to uplift those around you. You may be alone for now but those few small intentional moves, even if awkward at first, build the foundation for intentional community.

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